What is Before You Meet?

A private, structured compatibility tool for two people considering marriage. Each person answers the same questionnaire honestly and separately, then compares results together to see where they align and what to discuss before things get more serious.

Do I need to already know who I'm interested in to sign up?

No. Signing up builds your real profile first. From there you can start a session directly with someone you already know, or share your personal code so someone considering you can look up what you've shared before you go further.

How does the personal code work?

Every account gets one personal code. Anyone you share it with can look up your profile and see how you compare, quietly, before either of you is asked to commit to anything.

Is automatic matching available?

Automatic profile-based matching is coming soon. Completing your profile now means you'll be ready the moment it launches, with no need to start over.

About Privacy

تعارف · a marriage compatibility platform

Know exactly who you're dealing with before you meet.

One honest profile, answered at your own pace. Then let your wali/guardian, a trusted matchmaker, or the wider community put real, vetted prospects in front of you instead of searching alone.

✓Every account manually reviewed

✓No public search, only a code or a real introduction

✓A wali’s role built in, not bolted on

✓Every connection starts one of two ways: a shared code or a matchmaker’s introduction

How it works

Three steps. That's it.

Sign Up

Tell Us
About You

Be Found

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Your answers are private by default. See how we handle your data.

See what it looks like once you're in

Two example profiles (not real members) showing what a matchmaker introduction looks like on your dashboard.

Example

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Yusuf

29 · Software engineer · London

Open to all backgrounds Wants children Practising

"Looking for someone grounded in faith, easy to talk to, and ready to build a home together with intention."

A matchmaker has an introduction for you. Review it to see if you're interested.

Example

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Amina

26 · Paediatric nurse · Manchester

Open, preference for own Wants children Practising

"Family means everything to me. I'm looking for a partner who leads with kindness and consistency."

You said yes. Waiting for a response from the other side.

Yusuf and Amina are illustrative examples, not real members. No account or private data is behind this preview.

or rejoin an existing session

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Start New Session

Your first name

I am the

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Join a Session

Session code

Your first name

I am the

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We've Added Accounts

So you never lose access switching devices, and so your profile is ready the moment matching goes live, every session now needs a real account behind it, including this one, which started before that change.

Nothing about your answers changes. Link an account (or create one, which takes a minute) to keep going.

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Before we begin

Do you have someone's code?

If someone's shared their connection code with you, enter it now to start comparing your answers directly with theirs.

I don't have a code. Show me other ways to connect →

No code? No problem

Other ways to connect

Most people start here. You don't need someone's code to get going.

Matchmaker Introduction. A matchmaker has someone in mind for you? See what's waiting, or check on an active introduction.

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Pool Match. No one in mind yet?

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Skip for now. Start my first section →

Before you begin

Let us practise one question first

Every question works the same way. You choose your own answer, say whether the question really matters to you, and then mark how you would feel if your match gave a different answer.

This takes about a minute. Nothing you do here is saved or shown to anyone. It is only so you know exactly how to answer before you start.

Take me to my dashboard instead

You're ready

Let's start with your first section

You'll move through a few short sections at your own pace. Answer honestly, skip anything that doesn't apply, and you can always come back and finish later.

Take me to my dashboard instead

Create Your Account

Create your account and answer the questions on your own terms.

Email address

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Set a New Password

You followed a password reset link. Choose a new password for your account below.

New password

That link didn't work

It may have expired or already been used. This can happen even right after clicking it.

Tell Us About You

Your first name

Date of birth

You must be 18 or older to use Before You Meet.

Invite code

Before You Meet is currently invite-only for the Cheadle Masjid beta.

I am

Link an Existing Session

Already filled in a questionnaire with someone using a session code? Link it to this account. Your answers stay exactly where they are. This just connects your account to them.

Session code

I am the

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Direct Connect

Enter their personal code below. Once it resolves to their name, you can confirm the connection.

You're free to have early conversations with up to five people at once. Once you and someone reach Intention Check together, that connection becomes exclusive and your other early connections close, so you can both give it your full attention.

Your code

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Their code

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Look Up a Code

Enter someone's personal code to see what they've made public. A friend or family member may have passed it along, or you may have got it directly from someone you've already spoken with. They will not be told you looked.

Personal code

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Age range: — · Adjust

Your tags, explained

★ Essential

Mark a whole question as essential to you, separately from any of the below. It applies to the whole question, not just one answer. It tells the system you need real alignment here, or there's no point being shown to each other.

Red Flag

Mark this if this answer is something you genuinely couldn’t move past, not a preference, an actual line. You can flag any answer in the list this way, not just the one you picked. It means “if their real answer turns out to be this, that’s a dealbreaker for me.”

Worth Discussing

Mark this if it’s worth a real conversation before things go further, even if it’s not a hard line. Same as Red Flag. You can flag any answer in the list, not just the one you picked.

🍒 Cherry on top

Mark this if it would genuinely delight you if someone matched you here, not essential, just a bonus.

Two ways to connect

1

Direct Connect. Already know each other? Share your code with them, then you each answer honestly, apart, with no waiting on anyone.

2

Matchmaker Introduction. A matchmaker puts you forward directly. You each decide in turn. Nothing is shared with the other person unless you both say yes, and if you decline, they're never told an introduction happened at all.

Once you're connected, you both see each other's real answers, except Intimacy, which stays private until you both choose to reveal it. Outside a pairing, you only see what someone's chosen to make public.

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Guidance

Ways to Connect

1

Direct Connect. Already know each other? Share your code with them, then you each answer honestly, apart.

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2

Matchmaker Introduction. A matchmaker has someone in mind for you? See what's waiting, or check on an active introduction.

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3

Pool Match. No one in mind yet?

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Look Someone Up → Have a code but just want to preview their profile? No pairing required.

Link a Previous Session by Code → Answered together before you had an account? Attach that session here.

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+ Link another session by code

Take your time. There is no need to finish in one go. Complete one section at a time, and stop and come back whenever you like.

Opens your browser's print dialog. Choose "Save as PDF" to send a copy.

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Take a break. Pick up anytime from your Dashboard

How this works

After every conversation, write down what stood out. Over time it builds a record you can review with your wali/guardian before deciding.

1

Complete your profile and answer the questionnaire

2

Review results together and identify topics to discuss

3

Have face-to-face or phone conversations about the flagged areas

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Record what you learn here after each conversation

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Download the PDF and review everything with your wali/guardian or trusted advisor

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Pray istikhara and make your decision with clarity

Ready to meet?

Capture your first impressions while they're still fresh, before the moment fades.

Add a journal entry

When you save an entry, its text is sent to Claude, an AI service, to suggest themes for you to review. How we use AI

1Header

Date

Time range

Status

Title (optional)

Optional: link this entry to a flagged question

2Overall impression

2 to 3 sentences, or just rough notes or a transcript, either way. AI can turn whatever you write here into the rest of the report below (flags, topics, tensions), so you never have to write or paste it twice.

3At a glance

Quick flags. Add one at a time and press Enter.

Green lights

Amber flags

Red flags

4Alignment map

Mark each area based on how this conversation went.

5Topics discussed

Thread each topic separately. Heading + what was said.

+ Add topic

6Tensions and resolutions

Any disagreement, concern, or point that didn't land cleanly, and how it resolved (or didn't).

+ Add tension

7Open questions

What you wanted to ask but didn't, or follow-ups for next time.

8My reflections

Your honest read after the conversation, and what this tells you.

9Decision / next step

One line. What happens next.

Your Timeline

Share the full picture with your wali/guardian

One PDF with everything: your answers, journal entries and the AI analysis. Hand it to your wali, parents, or advisor.

What's in the PDF:

Cover page with names, date range, and session status
Executive summary and at-a-glance flags (green / amber / red)
Alignment map across every chapter and key area
AI deep-dive analysis: per-chapter, journal-driven themes, strengths, areas for discussion, risk factors, recommendations
Every structured journal entry, rendered in full
Outstanding questions aggregated from all entries
Closing duʿāʾ

Exclude the Intimacy chapter from this report (for when you're sharing with someone outside the marriage, e.g. the other side's wali/guardian)

Takes ~30 seconds. The AI reads every journal entry before writing the analysis. A print window opens when ready; choose "Save as PDF" to download.

When to regenerate

Regenerate after any new conversation or journal entry. Each PDF is a snapshot. Nothing is saved on our end, so keep your own copy.

Or: a quick Connection Summary

A quick one-page summary instead of the full report: your scores, a timeline of takeaways and what's still open. Ready in seconds.

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Why flagging matters

Say you're answering a question about prayer

Here’s what it does once you're matched

🍒 Cherry on top is the opposite

End this connection?

Know exactly who you're dealing with before you meet.

See what it looks like once you're in

Start New Session

Join a Session

Read Their Profile First

We've Added Accounts

Do you have someone's code?

Other ways to connect

Let us practise one question first

Let's start with your first section

Create Your Account

Set a New Password

That link didn't work

Tell Us About You

Link an Existing Session

Direct Connect

Look Up a Code

Profile

Reveal Requests

Pool Match Alerts

Clears your threshold, not yet mutual

Waiting on a finished profile

How This Works

Who you may meet

My Match

Welcome back

Notifications

My Progress ?

Guidance

Previous Connections

My Connections

How this works

Ready to meet?

Ready to Meet: First Reflections

Add a journal entry

1Header

2Overall impression

3At a glance

4Alignment map

5Topics discussed

6Tensions and resolutions

7Open questions

8My reflections

9Decision / next step

Your Timeline

Share the full picture with your wali/guardian

When to regenerate

Or: a quick Connection Summary

My Progress