Before You Meet

Your Personal Code

Anyone who has this code can look up your profile below — a friend or family member who thinks you'd be worth introducing to someone, or someone you've already spoken with who wants to know more before going further. You won't be told when someone looks. Chapters you mark private here are never shown this way, no matter who has your code.

What Each Chapter Shows

Everything defaults to visible to anyone with your code, except Intimacy, which always starts private. Move anything else to private if you'd rather share it only once you choose to.

My Essentials

Questions you've marked essential while answering (the ☆ next to any question) show here confirmed. We also suggest a few Core questions worth reviewing — nothing is applied automatically; check a suggestion and save to confirm it.

Pool Match Alerts

If you're both open to it, we'll email you when someone in the pool clears your own threshold for them — and you clear theirs for you. Off by default. Nobody is scanned unless they've chosen to be.

My Priorities

A private, ranked list just for you — helps you think about and see what actually matters most, in order. Drag to reorder.

Add a suggestion, or write your own below
Reordering only changes what you see here. Nobody's Essentials Match or Compatibility score changes because of this list — full stop.

Change Password

Update the password you sign in with.