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115 QUESTIONS BEFORE I DO
Know what you are walking into before the nikah.
Answer honestly. Compare openly.
Fill in your answers, then loop: call → journal → live analysis → repeat. When you feel the important things have been covered, generate the Wali Report.
This is the preliminary checkpoint. Better to find out you are not aligned in two weeks of honest answering than six months of vague conversations.
or rejoin an existing session
Read this once before you start. It sets the context for everything that follows.
In Islam, marriage (nikah) is a contract between two people, sealed by witnesses and a mahr. It is the foundation of mawaddah and rahmah — love, mercy, and protection. It carries clear rights and duties on both sides. This tool exists so that you walk into that contract knowing what you are walking into, with honesty on both sides, before the nikah is signed.
Polygamy is something Allah has permitted. A man may marry up to four wives on the condition that he treats them with full justice. It is an allowance, not a command — most marriages in Islam are between one man and one woman, and most men are not in a position to fulfil the conditions of a second marriage. A woman is free to make stipulations in her nikah contract regarding it — for example, that the marriage is dissolved if her husband takes a second wife. That is a valid Islamic stipulation.
What is your understanding of polygamy?
In Islam, what belongs to the wife is hers — her wealth, her property, her income — and the husband has no claim over it. In the UK, civil divorce courts can override this and divide assets in ways that contradict the Islamic ruling. For this reason, many couples put a written stipulation in their nikah, or a separate prenuptial agreement, that protects both sides and reflects the Islamic position. Common stipulations include keeping each spouse's pre-marriage wealth and property separate, a clause that dissolves the marriage if the husband takes a second wife, and clarity on financial responsibilities. None of these are required — they are tools.
Where do you stand on a written nikah stipulation or prenup?
This journal builds a complete picture of the person you are getting to know. After every conversation, write down what you learned, what stood out, and what you want to remember. Over time this becomes a comprehensive record you can review on your own or with your wali before making a decision.
Paste your raw notes or a transcript below. AI will read it and fill in every section of the report. You can review and edit before saving.
2–3 sentences. Your honest gut read after the conversation.
Quick flags. Add one at a time and press Enter.
Mark each area based on how this conversation went.
Thread each topic separately. Heading + what was said.
+ Add topicAny disagreement, concern, or point that didn't land cleanly — and how it resolved (or didn't).
+ Add tensionWhat you wanted to ask but didn't, or follow-ups for next time.
Your honest read after the conversation — what this tells you.
One line. What happens next.
Generate a beautifully styled PDF that brings together everything in one document — your questionnaire alignment, every conversation journal entry, the AI compatibility analysis, and outstanding questions. Hand it to your wali, parents, or trusted advisor so they can see the full picture of how conversations have been going.
What's in the PDF:
Takes ~30 seconds — the AI reads every journal entry before writing the analysis. A print window opens when ready; choose "Save as PDF" to download.
Regenerate the PDF after every major conversation, every new journal entry, or before any meeting with your wali. Each PDF reflects the state of the record at that moment — no PDF is archived server-side, so take a copy if you want to keep history.
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